Necessary Objects – The Flip Side Part IV

Jaimie did a post stating:

For the first time in my life, I need a man. I absolutely need James.
Life would be so hard without him. He does all of the hard, dirty work, while I sit there and worry. He's a doer, a mover, a motivater.

On the other hand, he thinks that I do too much. I don't think I do

Life before James was hard. I felt like I was floating, spinning through my
life without a safety net. Now, I know that if I spin too fast, he'll be there
to catch me.

Now, I know that men are necessary.

I love when my Doll write things like this about me. But I wonder how men feel about the necessity of women. Besides the obvious reasons; reproduction, groceries, an excuse to watch Oprah, do men need women? I’m not talking about your girl that comes over every once in a while and break you off something proper.

Our masculine instincts generally won’t allow us to admit it, but when I think about my life with Jaimie, there is absolutely no way I’d want to go back to who I was before I met her. Not only have I learned so much about relationships, but I’ve also learned a great deal about who I am. The partnership and friendship that I’ve developed with Jaimie is so different than anything I’ve ever experienced.

In a way, I would say that Jaimie has added immense value to my life. That’s what a relationship should do. In fact, there are only two things a relationship can do for a person; add value or add misery. I’ve experience both as I am sure most of us have.

So the topic of discussion for the men today is this:
1. How does your wife/girlfriend add value to your life?
2. What qualities do you look for in a woman that you feel will add value to your life and the relationship?
3. How do you expect to be treated by a woman?

4. Does your view of women and relationships differ from the men in previous generations.

Previous Discussions:

Part I: Men on Fatherhood
Part II: Dead Men Don't Talk
Part III: Rules for Men to Live By


4 Responses to Necessary Objects – The Flip Side Part IV

  1. Rashid Muhammad Says:
    As a single guy I'm just gonna put it like this:

    I need a woman like I need a hole in my head...

    That hole is my mouth.
  2. The Best [ Ghostface ] Says:
    John Wayne Syndrome And Tender loving Care Of Females

    I feel often that many of us men fear sharing our feeling (emotions) with the female in our lives. Because of the JOHN WAYNE syndrome. JOHN WAYNE syndrome means big boys don’t dry they don’t show their emotions, they tough only women cry and show their emotions. But females (mother, aunties, sisters, wives, girlfriends, etc) make a man (males in general from the time we are born) more sympathetic and compassionate this is the major reason men sometimes show mercy to other people when they could inflict pain on them. So yes, Jay women are an asset to us men. Without women I feel we men would totally be more brutal and violent showing no mercy to other humans.

    Good essay Jay (James) and I read the comment you left at my bloghouse I also responded. Keep up these good posts jay I am glad you found someone special too.

    By Chance
  3. Diane S. Says:
    Only two comments? Damn! I was hoping for learning all sorts of illuminating things about how men really feel about women.

    I think what I learned is that maybe men don't want to talk so much about the tender feelings they may or may not have for women.

    And that is a statement in it's self.
  4. Anonymous Says:
    That's a great story. Waiting for more. » » »